If you want to have more friends, you have to step out of your comfort zone and go out more often. Usually, the most-liked people are those that can fill a room with laughter. If both of you have your own set of engagements, it may be hard to find time together. If you think about it, 99% of people are too busy being concerned about these very things themselves to pay attention to you. Getty Images Within seconds of meeting you, people are already.
Be there for them A friendship is a supportive union between two people. Just make sure to look away at some point — as Carol Kinsey Goman , too much eye contact can feel rude or intimidating for the other person. We all know how important it is to steer clear of the office know-it-all. Sometimes you may have a preset notion of the kind of friend you want. Just make sure you are ready to see the humor in something. Meet a new friend the next time you go on vacation.
There are many interest groups, such as groups for entrepreneurs, aspiring authors, vegetarians, board-game lovers, cycling enthusiasts, etc. You can join them in their outings or just ask your friend to introduce you to them. Just take a look at our social networks as we fill our days with Facebook status updates, Instagraming everything and tweeting about every aspect of our lives. I also used to go on lots of dates. Cliques are established groups of friends.
Today I run my blog and coach others through 1-1 coaching and workshops where I share a lot of my life to others. They are hanging out, partying, whatever. There have been some very nice surprises this way for me in terms of different people I've met and the types of things I've been able to read. One simple example is how on my blog, and in return, I attract readers who are genuine, supportive, and kind. Get to know the person as an individual.
In terms of your body language, Boothman says you should aim your heart directly at the person you're meeting. Does any of your friends need help currently? That character on the show Mind Games is right: Admitting weaknesses makes you more likable. When someone appears to need our help, we tend to like them more because we like being the one who provides the answers. Those assessments can influence whether they want to hire you, date you, or be your friend. Don't cover your heart with your hands or your arms.
Whether you are with a friend, family member, new acquaintance or being interviewed for a job, listen to what is being said to you, then ask pertinent questions that prove you are engaged. How was I even going to find one? Hence, your brain will scream and shout and freeze you and cause you actual physical pain if you want to talk to someone new. And they often have their canned answers. Being liked makes us feel good, after all. I had no way to relate to her at all.
People are constipated with facts. I could relate to authority sometimes preventing me from living the life I want to lead. When I meet someone, the first thing I wonder is not whether or not I like them, but whether or not they like me. Talking to someone outside your tribe might have gotten you killed. And if you're wearing a jacket, unbutton it beforehand. Good way to meet more people nonetheless.
This connection between you and the other party can only begin when your heart is open. The internet is a great way to meet new people. Respect that everyone has it hard, or harder, than you do. They are relieved to get rid of those facts. Check out online forums on your interest topics. The truest friendships are built with both parties accepting each other for who they are.